Comments on: Statistically Speaking http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2007/09/26/statistically-speaking/ Wraith's Wrealm Thu, 21 Aug 2008 17:09:12 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.3.3 By: Debby http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2007/09/26/statistically-speaking/#comment-37058 Debby Thu, 21 Feb 2008 19:40:40 +0000 http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2007/09/26/statistically-speaking/#comment-37058 Wow is all I can say. I am 49 years old and I can honestly say that everyday of my life I have felt appreciation for my birthparents decision. Not only for giving me life, but also for giving me "a life". I have never felt that I was "given away", or rejected. Instead I feel that I was loved enough to have an adoption plan made for me. I can only imagine what a difficult decision it was to make, and I hope they have never regretted it. My REAL (adoptive) parents have always loved me unconditionally. While I may have biological roots elsewhere my ROOTS are firmly planted with my parents, siblings and relatives that I grew up with and have a relationship with. It might be nice to look at someone whom I can see myself in, but it really isn't that important. I look at my parents, etc...and see MY FAMILY! And don't think my life has been perfect either - it hasn't, but that's life. There may be things I would change, but being adopted isn't one of them. Wow is all I can say. I am 49 years old and I can honestly say that everyday of my life I have felt appreciation for my birthparents decision. Not only for giving me life, but also for giving me “a life”. I have never felt that I was “given away”, or rejected. Instead I feel that I was loved enough to have an adoption plan made for me. I can only imagine what a difficult decision it was to make, and I hope they have never regretted it. My REAL (adoptive) parents have always loved me unconditionally. While I may have biological roots elsewhere my ROOTS are firmly planted with my parents, siblings and relatives that I grew up with and have a relationship with. It might be nice to look at someone whom I can see myself in, but it really isn’t that important. I look at my parents, etc…and see MY FAMILY! And don’t think my life has been perfect either - it hasn’t, but that’s life. There may be things I would change, but being adopted isn’t one of them.

]]> By: mia http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2007/09/26/statistically-speaking/#comment-30627 mia Sun, 21 Oct 2007 12:08:55 +0000 http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2007/09/26/statistically-speaking/#comment-30627 I think 93% of all adoptees would find these statistics to be nothing more than drivel. Statistically speaking. I think 93% of all adoptees would find these statistics to be nothing more than drivel.
Statistically speaking.

]]> By: erinthebeekeeper http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2007/09/26/statistically-speaking/#comment-30519 erinthebeekeeper Sat, 20 Oct 2007 02:02:24 +0000 http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2007/09/26/statistically-speaking/#comment-30519 I threw up a little when I read that SHIT from the NCFA. I threw up a little when I read that SHIT from the NCFA.

]]> By: Cath http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2007/09/26/statistically-speaking/#comment-30389 Cath Wed, 17 Oct 2007 16:37:49 +0000 http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2007/09/26/statistically-speaking/#comment-30389 First of all, it is very sad how your (bio) mother treated you. It is inexcusable. Secondly, please do NOT label me as being the same as her! I did NOT "throw" away my son! I wanted my son more than anything in the world - as did his father. We were NOT careless - we were ROBBED! I don't know about the rest of the world, but in Ontario, adoption fraud was rife. The Ontario government has acknowledged this to be the case - as has the UN. We are GOOD parents. We WANTED our son. We were ENGAGED - but apparently that was NOT good enough! They STOLE him from us when CATHOLIC nurse realised I had not had the chance to marry my son's father and called the CATHOLIC social services to take him right out of the maternity ward. They used the excuse that my ex was a danger to my son - my ex was NOT my son's father and I was NOT with him - I was with my son's father. The police REFUSED to lock up my abusive ex. - while the social services punished US for someone else's crimes. The agency that STOLE our son from us now admits that it took bribes and paid professioals to LIE. I have documents that show these LIES that I was able to disprove. My evidence was so strong that the UN has officially entered me into their Registry for Adoption Fraud Victims (not to mention those of violence and torture at the hands of professionals). I fought tooth and nail to get my son back - I did NOTHING wrong! Do NOT lump me in with those that hurt you - I am NOT and NEVER was that way. BTW, my son's adoptive father does not deny paying bribes. I found my son and he is reunited with us and his siblings. We are both proud to call him son. My son was also not given some very VITAL medical information which almost KILLED him. He has thanked us profusely for finding him and making sure that he has this. My son's father even took him out to a music festival recently - my son does NOT consider us to have "inflicted" ourselves on him. He is delighted that we found him! I am sorry that your reunion did not end well - BUT... we are NOT all the same, thank you very much! Please do NOT lump me in with others that have hurt you - that is NOT fair. First of all, it is very sad how your (bio) mother treated you.

It is inexcusable.

Secondly, please do NOT label me as being the same as her!

I did NOT “throw” away my son!

I wanted my son more than anything in the world - as did his father.

We were NOT careless - we were ROBBED!

I don’t know about the rest of the world, but in Ontario, adoption fraud was rife.
The Ontario government has acknowledged this to be the case - as has the UN.

We are GOOD parents. We WANTED our son. We were ENGAGED - but apparently that was NOT good enough! They STOLE him from us when CATHOLIC nurse realised I had not had the chance to marry my son’s father and called the CATHOLIC social services to take him right out of the maternity ward. They used the excuse that my ex was a danger to my son - my ex was NOT my son’s father and I was NOT with him - I was with my son’s father. The police REFUSED to lock up my abusive ex. - while the social services punished US for someone else’s crimes.

The agency that STOLE our son from us now admits that it took bribes and paid professioals to LIE. I have documents that show these LIES that I was able to disprove. My evidence was so strong that the UN has officially entered me into their Registry for Adoption Fraud Victims (not to mention those of violence and torture at the hands of professionals).

I fought tooth and nail to get my son back - I did NOTHING wrong!

Do NOT lump me in with those that hurt you - I am NOT and NEVER was that way.

BTW, my son’s adoptive father does not deny paying bribes.

I found my son and he is reunited with us and his siblings. We are both proud to call him son.

My son was also not given some very VITAL medical information which almost KILLED him.
He has thanked us profusely for finding him and making sure that he has this.

My son’s father even took him out to a music festival recently - my son does NOT consider us to have “inflicted” ourselves on him. He is delighted that we found him!

I am sorry that your reunion did not end well - BUT…

we are NOT all the same, thank you very much!

Please do NOT lump me in with others that have hurt you - that is NOT fair.

]]> By: Vicki http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2007/09/26/statistically-speaking/#comment-30232 Vicki Sun, 14 Oct 2007 17:44:32 +0000 http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2007/09/26/statistically-speaking/#comment-30232 Very interesting statistics. As an adoptee I'd have to say that my birth mother probably did the right thing without any encouragement. 52 years ago the social consequences of a bastard child were pretty severe. The down side of it all is that my birth mother looked for and found me 20 years ago and then this year decided she wasn't my mother anymore - just someone that gave birth to me. I'm inapproprate because she didn't raise me and the embarassment is just too much for her and her social status. Through her I located by birth father and while I never met him I did talk with him a couple of times. He never wanted to establish a relationship so I respected that. He died on 9/30. So, while adoption may or may not be the answer, once it's done it should be done. Birth parents should never have the right to inflict themselves on the chidren they threw away and while they may be depressed, it's their own damn fault for being so careless in the first place. I may be 51 but let me tell you, what my "mother" did to me was inexcusable, cruel, and devastating. Very interesting statistics. As an adoptee I’d have to say that my birth mother probably did the right thing without any encouragement. 52 years ago the social consequences of a bastard child were pretty severe.
The down side of it all is that my birth mother looked for and found me 20 years ago and then this year decided she wasn’t my mother anymore - just someone that gave birth to me. I’m inapproprate because she didn’t raise me and the embarassment is just too much for her and her social status. Through her I located by birth father and while I never met him I did talk with him a couple of times. He never wanted to establish a relationship so I respected that. He died on 9/30.
So, while adoption may or may not be the answer, once it’s done it should be done. Birth parents should never have the right to inflict themselves on the chidren they threw away and while they may be depressed, it’s their own damn fault for being so careless in the first place. I may be 51 but let me tell you, what my “mother” did to me was inexcusable, cruel, and devastating.

]]> By: Cath http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2007/09/26/statistically-speaking/#comment-29257 Cath Thu, 27 Sep 2007 23:59:16 +0000 http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2007/09/26/statistically-speaking/#comment-29257 I don't know where they got their stats from! Robin Winkler found that 90 percent of (bio) mothers suffered depression for the rest of their lives. I dropped out of uni because they would not let me keep my son and study at the same time. I never went back - how could I go back to such a barbaric place! I still lost my son tho. Ironically, he dropped out of uni because he was depressed about losing me. Since our reunion, he has registered to go back - he is much happier now as I am. BTW here is one piece of information they don't want you to have - adoptees as a group are over-represented in serial killers!!! Hmmm - I wonder why they left that one out now!!! I don’t know where they got their stats from!

Robin Winkler found that 90 percent of (bio) mothers suffered depression for the rest of their lives.

I dropped out of uni because they would not let me keep my son and study at the same time. I never went back - how could I go back to such a barbaric place!

I still lost my son tho.

Ironically, he dropped out of uni because he was depressed about losing me.

Since our reunion, he has registered to go back - he is much happier now as I am.

BTW here is one piece of information they don’t want you to have -
adoptees as a group are over-represented in serial killers!!!

Hmmm - I wonder why they left that one out now!!!

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