Comments on: Somewhere to belong. http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2007/09/09/somewhere-to-belong/ Wraith's Wrealm Thu, 20 Nov 2008 17:30:52 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.3.3 By: ngq http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2007/09/09/somewhere-to-belong/#comment-33764 ngq Wed, 05 Dec 2007 23:12:31 +0000 http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2007/09/09/somewhere-to-belong/#comment-33764 Very true. I was cast aside officially at 10 years of age...adopted by my foster family. Always introduced as adopted and listed in the family tree as such. After my adopted dad passed away my family methodically and cruely proceeded to cast me aside. Birthday cards still say.."I never thought of you as adopted.." yeah sure. Very true. I was cast aside officially at 10 years of age…adopted by my foster family. Always introduced as adopted and listed in the family tree as such. After my adopted dad passed away my family methodically and cruely proceeded to cast me aside. Birthday cards still say..”I never thought of you as adopted..” yeah sure.

]]> By: sunset http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2007/09/09/somewhere-to-belong/#comment-29259 sunset Fri, 28 Sep 2007 01:00:06 +0000 http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2007/09/09/somewhere-to-belong/#comment-29259 Thanks for writing this -- I hope a-parents read this and consider how the "family" they bring their a-child into will treat the adoptee. A hypothetical adoptee (ok, me) may grow up being treated very well by their extended adopted family and find that things can drastically change after their a-parents are gone. (ok, it hasn't happened but it's a fear of mine...) Thanks for writing this — I hope a-parents read this and consider how the “family” they bring their a-child into will treat the adoptee. A hypothetical adoptee (ok, me) may grow up being treated very well by their extended adopted family and find that things can drastically change after their a-parents are gone. (ok, it hasn’t happened but it’s a fear of mine…)

]]> By: Mary http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2007/09/09/somewhere-to-belong/#comment-28422 Mary Sat, 15 Sep 2007 00:56:21 +0000 http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2007/09/09/somewhere-to-belong/#comment-28422 Its like when my adad's father was going through old (historical) pics, he said he was going to throw them away because none of his grandchildren were "of his blood" UGH Its like when my adad’s father was going through old (historical) pics, he said he was going to throw them away because none of his grandchildren were “of his blood” UGH

]]> By: Theresa http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2007/09/09/somewhere-to-belong/#comment-28291 Theresa Thu, 13 Sep 2007 01:44:55 +0000 http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2007/09/09/somewhere-to-belong/#comment-28291 Thank you for writing this. Thank you for writing this.

]]> By: jim http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2007/09/09/somewhere-to-belong/#comment-28192 jim Tue, 11 Sep 2007 14:53:11 +0000 http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2007/09/09/somewhere-to-belong/#comment-28192 Possum, I too have a cousin who never missed a chance to point out that we (my a-siblings & I) were not really "family", just adopted. God, how I hated being dragged there for visits, thankfully it was not that often. My only bio-sibling won't speak with me. Extended adoptive family is not very outgoing, not mean to me if I call but not warmly receptive either. Until recently I didn't know others went through this kind of shit. We really are stuck in the middle, often with no one to turn to but each other. And I am glad, in a sad sort of way, to know I am not alone. Love you bastards! Possum, I too have a cousin who never missed a chance to point out that we (my a-siblings & I) were not really “family”, just adopted. God, how I hated being dragged there for visits, thankfully it was not that often.
My only bio-sibling won’t speak with me. Extended adoptive family is not very outgoing, not mean to me if I call but not warmly receptive either. Until recently I didn’t know others went through this kind of shit. We really are stuck in the middle, often with no one to turn to but each other. And I am glad, in a sad sort of way, to know I am not alone.
Love you bastards!

]]> By: Possum http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2007/09/09/somewhere-to-belong/#comment-28156 Possum Tue, 11 Sep 2007 01:23:09 +0000 http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2007/09/09/somewhere-to-belong/#comment-28156 Great post. And there be truth in EVERY SINGLE WORD. I had an older cousin (a-fam) who would actually introduce me as 'Possum-she's adopted'. Nice. We are doomed to be forever in the middle. Neither fitting in here - nor - there. The ONLY saving grace - having found other adoptees in this no-mans land. And I'm thankful for every single one. Poss. xxx Great post.
And there be truth in EVERY SINGLE WORD.
I had an older cousin (a-fam) who would actually introduce me as ‘Possum-she’s adopted’.
Nice.
We are doomed to be forever in the middle.
Neither fitting in here - nor - there.
The ONLY saving grace - having found other adoptees in this no-mans land.
And I’m thankful for every single one.
Poss. xxx

]]> By: Wraiths http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2007/09/09/somewhere-to-belong/#comment-28145 Wraiths Mon, 10 Sep 2007 21:57:26 +0000 http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2007/09/09/somewhere-to-belong/#comment-28145 Hi Suz, yeah it is isn't it. Hello 2btrue, thanks for linking me. I really need to update my own links. Hi Suz, yeah it is isn’t it.

Hello 2btrue, thanks for linking me. I really need to update my own links.

]]> By: 2btrue http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2007/09/09/somewhere-to-belong/#comment-28144 2btrue Mon, 10 Sep 2007 21:51:08 +0000 http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2007/09/09/somewhere-to-belong/#comment-28144 Wraith, wanted to say Im in the same predicament as you - I made first contact with my nmom and then it was broken off - I intend to tell the story soon in my blog. I added you to my blogroll. Wraith, wanted to say Im in the same predicament as you - I made first contact with my nmom and then it was broken off - I intend to tell the story soon in my blog. I added you to my blogroll.

]]> By: suz http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2007/09/09/somewhere-to-belong/#comment-28123 suz Mon, 10 Sep 2007 12:40:38 +0000 http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2007/09/09/somewhere-to-belong/#comment-28123 horrible. truly horrible. all expectant mothers considering adoption should read this. these are the types of things that are never told to mothers and in our often desparate state they never occur to us. also glad, once again, that I have taken a different approach (even if it is not yet appreciated) horrible. truly horrible. all expectant mothers considering adoption should read this. these are the types of things that are never told to mothers and in our often desparate state they never occur to us.
also glad, once again, that I have taken a different approach (even if it is not yet appreciated)

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