Comments on: Somewhere to belong.

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Sun, 31 Oct 2010 09:10:06 +0000

Help. I think I am a complicated version of all stories above especially Cyrilla above. I need to know where to go for starting an investigation. I am glad you site exists and still does.

By: Esmarelda simpson

Esmarelda simpson — Sat, 28 Aug 2010 22:09:16 +0000

Growing up,being told i dont belong here,aunts and auncles going out of thier way to remind me im a nothing left with no one and dont deserve love of a family…i prayed all my life for this hurt and pain to stop,but adopted mom past away and 5years later adopted dad past away 8august a month after my 27th birthday.where to now and where from here,i love the family that hates my shaddow in there home,the home that gave me the oppertunity to always hope maybe one day ill be exepted 2,still hoping with a sore heart bleeding for a family love bond. Knowing someone cares and make you feel at home and secure,thanx mie and pa(adopted parents)

By: Marianne

Marianne — Fri, 10 Jul 2009 15:34:25 +0000

God so glad for this page. I don’t feel like I’m the only one anymore. So many things, so much pain, and no one ever cares what you say cuz it’s not their problem. I am beginning to HATE all of them. I understand now though why they treat me like I’m not even a real person. Thanks so much for posting this page.

By: Cyrilla

Cyrilla — Thu, 28 May 2009 19:17:17 +0000

I am a birthmom of the 60′s. I never even signed relinquishment papers but she was taken, I got to see her once thru a window for only two minutes before I was whisked away from my hometown, stripped of my church, my own family and friends and dropped 90 miles from home in another city. I was 16, no car, no money, basically just some clothes, and some of those were maternity tops. I was told to get a job, pay rent, find a way to get some food and get myself enrolled in school. I didn;t even know the streets. I was an honor society and leader in my church and I felt lost, alone, ashamed and told to never speak of it to anyone. 24 years later my daughter found me and we have been close. There is hope for some. In 90 and 91 helped in 200 reunions.. some worked and some didn;t but at least they saw faces that matched theirs. love to all adoptees but think of what happened to your birthmom also, She maybe like me..remember I never signed for her to be adopted, She was basically stolen.

By: ngq

ngq — Wed, 05 Dec 2007 23:12:31 +0000

Very true. I was cast aside officially at 10 years of age…adopted by my foster family. Always introduced as adopted and listed in the family tree as such. After my adopted dad passed away my family methodically and cruely proceeded to cast me aside. Birthday cards still say..”I never thought of you as adopted..” yeah sure.

By: sunset

sunset — Fri, 28 Sep 2007 01:00:06 +0000

Thanks for writing this — I hope a-parents read this and consider how the “family” they bring their a-child into will treat the adoptee. A hypothetical adoptee (ok, me) may grow up being treated very well by their extended adopted family and find that things can drastically change after their a-parents are gone. (ok, it hasn’t happened but it’s a fear of mine…)

By: Mary

Mary — Sat, 15 Sep 2007 00:56:21 +0000

Its like when my adad’s father was going through old (historical) pics, he said he was going to throw them away because none of his grandchildren were “of his blood” UGH

By: Theresa

Theresa — Thu, 13 Sep 2007 01:44:55 +0000

Thank you for writing this.

By: jim

jim — Tue, 11 Sep 2007 14:53:11 +0000

Possum, I too have a cousin who never missed a chance to point out that we (my a-siblings & I) were not really “family”, just adopted. God, how I hated being dragged there for visits, thankfully it was not that often.
My only bio-sibling won’t speak with me. Extended adoptive family is not very outgoing, not mean to me if I call but not warmly receptive either. Until recently I didn’t know others went through this kind of shit. We really are stuck in the middle, often with no one to turn to but each other. And I am glad, in a sad sort of way, to know I am not alone.
Love you bastards!

By: Possum

Possum — Tue, 11 Sep 2007 01:23:09 +0000

Great post.
And there be truth in EVERY SINGLE WORD.
I had an older cousin (a-fam) who would actually introduce me as ‘Possum-she’s adopted’.
Nice.
We are doomed to be forever in the middle.
Neither fitting in here – nor – there.
The ONLY saving grace – having found other adoptees in this no-mans land.
And I’m thankful for every single one.
Poss. xxx