…therefore never send to know for whom the bell tolls; It tolls for thee.
John Donne (1572 - 1631), Meditation XVII

We are rattling cages. Some, like Amy, are louder than others but each voice counts. Even the smallest adds to the power we have. Every voice that speaks their truth adds to the knowledge of those not involved in adoption. With them listening, the face of adoption will change. Yes, it has changed some but there is still coercion, there are still mothers who want their children back and the business owners and lawyers who fight against that, there are still many states who prevent their citizens from knowing their own truth.

I listen to the stories of adotpees searching. I hear their pain within their words, and their anger at being treated as second class citizens when it comes to their informaion. My soul resonates with it.

I listen to the words of the agency lackeys. The comments they post on other blogs, the videos they create, the stories they publish, there is an element of fear in it. Fear that the status quo isn’t going to stay. Fear that their control, their power is slowly slipping away. As each state provides Equal Acces, each government begins to acknowledge our rights, a bell tolls. My soul revels in it.

Let’s face it, Adoption is not about providing a home for unwanted children. It’s not about making a better life, even if the perspective birth mother thinks she is doing the “best thing.” I want to ask those people who put the idea that this was the “best thing” in your mind?

Adoption is about lining the coffers of board members by tearing apart families. It’s about selling babies for the “right to parent.” It’s about business disguided behind the mask of smiling faces and open hands.

Adoption is said to be a multi-billion dollar business, can you imagine what that money could do if put toward keeping families together? Can you imagine what it might be like if an adoption had to take place, the adoptee was treated with respect and had their full information and truth and it was their decision what to do with it?

Not yet though. We still have to struggle for access. We have to battle against the supposed “right to privacy.” Think about this. The government will defend the right for an accused person to face the person who accuses them. They will allow a murderer or a rapist to sit and look right at the person who is accusing them. Yet, they won’t allow me to know where my blood comes from. They will even try to enact laws to make it illegal for me to even attempt to find out.

It is changing though, slowly but surely with each small voice so don’t let it stop you. Add you voice, even if you think it doesn’t matter. Even if you think it’s just too small to really help. It does help; each story is an important piece, each voice an important instrument, each truth a light.

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