Home again
A man travels the world over in search of what he needs and returns home to find it.
George Moore
Baby and mom are home now and doing well. He is a small bundle of joy (read: sleepless giddy,) song (read: cry to melt your soul,) and bearer of small gifts (read: well you know what that means.)
The hospital was amazing. The room was huge and private. They also had a policy of keeping the baby with mom as much as possible. From the minute I cut the cord and followed him into the nursery for observation and his first bath (which took about 2 hours in all) until we wheeled him into the mom’s room, he was only out of our sight for approximately fifteen minutes over the next four days. The doctor, pediatrician, and nurses all came to the room to check him, not taking him out. I could have stayed every night if I wanted but I had to take care of my older son who couldn’t stay.
Of course, as I held my new son, my thoughts drifted to my own birth and subsequent adoption. I realised my mother may never have held me. I wonder if I was held by anyone who cared for me or loved me before my mom and dad held me.
For me though, it was less than a month. There are others that weren’t placed for months or even years. I wonder who held them?
Bottom line though, I have blood relatives now and a family. Even if I never find her or them; I have parents, a sister, a wife, and two greats sons. I am still not going to give up but I have a good life here. Especially with these two:
I want to thank you all for your kind words. I have been reading all comments even if I haven’t replied. I have recieved a great addition to the Recommendations for Adoptive Parents from Michelle that I want to list and a revisit of the Adoptive Plane.
April 14th, 2007 at 5:08 am
awesome picture! gosh, what handsome children! love his tattoos. (LOL). this kinda made me cry. made me remember the three days straight I held my daughter. i seriously pretty much held her 24×7 for the three days followngi her birth. : (
April 14th, 2007 at 7:55 am
What a great picture!
My congratulations to you and your family on the new addition. You do indeed have a wonderful life.
I am not particularly religious but maybe there is a reason for all this. You articulate the sorrows and frustrations of searching so well that I truly believe you have been chosen to speak for those with no voice.
Enjoy your family (and get some sleep!).
Dan
April 14th, 2007 at 9:29 pm
Wraith, they are both so precious! I am a sucker for little boys. I have two and both of their births were an awakening of sorts for me as far as adoption “issues” goes. My son younger son also did not leave our sight during our entire hospital stay. I tucked him inside my gown just to get closer to him. I too spent that time wondering how my mother could live with never having seen me. Just as I was being born they sedated her so she did not witness the miracle of my birth. For some reason that still haunts me. Thank you for sharing the stories your newest baby’s birth and homecoming. My thoughts and prayers are with the four of you. Hugs, Rebecca
April 15th, 2007 at 3:36 am
I just wanted to say congratulations Wraith, and wish you all much happiness together.
He’s adorable, and I still think your older boy has some of the most gorgeous eyes I’ve ever seen.
I also wanted to say I hear you on the adoption linkages. When my oldest was born, I first thought about my first mom. When my youngest was born was the first time I consciously remember being sad thinking that I may never know whether anyone held me as a newborn, or where I had spent the first almost 4 months of my life. Realizing how powerful the experience is as a parent makes us ponder how it affected us as the child too, I guess.
Cheryl
April 15th, 2007 at 6:26 am
This post and the previous one….well, WOWWWWW. You are one helluvu guy Wraith. I am extremely proud to call you a friend.
It is the most amazing feeling in the world to hold a part of YOU in your arms isn’t it? I think that is a precious gift that only an adoptee may truly appreciate in depth.
CONGRATULATIONS to you and your lovely family!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
April 15th, 2007 at 4:26 pm
Your kids are beautiful. Congratulations on the new addition!
April 16th, 2007 at 4:42 pm
Oh my gosh, those eyes and him holding his little brother, sooooo cute.
Congratulations.
MSP
April 16th, 2007 at 9:51 pm
Congratulations again, my friend. I am thrilled that you are enjoying the moment with your beautiful family.
Hugs,
Cookie
April 30th, 2007 at 10:20 pm
Congratulations on the birth of your son! They are so cute.