Comments on: What If? http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2007/02/07/what-if/ Wraith's Wrealm Thu, 04 Dec 2008 01:21:38 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.3.3 By: Deb http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2007/02/07/what-if/#comment-12107 Deb Wed, 14 Feb 2007 00:08:27 +0000 http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2007/02/07/what-if/#comment-12107 *The problem is, we could “what if” on both sides of the fence all day but each case is a little different and needs to be viewed as such whether good or bad. Even though adoption may be the best available answer in a given situation let’s stop pretending that it’s the best of every world for every member.* PERFECT!!!! How can anyone not GET that, especially with your examples? An action call if I've ever read one *The problem is, we could “what if” on both sides of the fence all day but each case is a little different and needs to be viewed as such whether good or bad. Even though adoption may be the best available answer in a given situation let’s stop pretending that it’s the best of every world for every member.*

PERFECT!!!! How can anyone not GET that, especially with your examples? An action call if I’ve ever read one

]]> By: Wraiths http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2007/02/07/what-if/#comment-12105 Wraiths Tue, 13 Feb 2007 21:10:03 +0000 http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2007/02/07/what-if/#comment-12105 Hi Alex, What if we worked to find out WHY they are being abandoned and work on that, rahter than seeing it as a money making windfall for agencies and governments? I never said my story was the only one, actually, I have stated that there are as many stories in adoption as there are people touched by adoption. My point was to not discount our stories as adoptees because because of one persons "need" to "rescue" a child. Hi Alex,

What if we worked to find out WHY they are being abandoned and work on that, rahter than seeing it as a money making windfall for agencies and governments? I never said my story was the only one, actually, I have stated that there are as many stories in adoption as there are people touched by adoption. My point was to not discount our stories as adoptees because because of one persons “need” to “rescue” a child.

]]> By: Alex http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2007/02/07/what-if/#comment-12104 Alex Tue, 13 Feb 2007 20:22:30 +0000 http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2007/02/07/what-if/#comment-12104 What if thousands of children a year are abandoned in cities and countries in Eastern Europe that nobody cares about? What if they never experience the love and acceptance of a good family? What if they grow up wondering if they have ever felt loved or wanted in their whole lives? What if they were abused in their orphanages? What if indeed. Your story is not the only one. What if thousands of children a year are abandoned in cities and countries in Eastern Europe that nobody cares about? What if they never experience the love and acceptance of a good family? What if they grow up wondering if they have ever felt loved or wanted in their whole lives? What if they were abused in their orphanages? What if indeed. Your story is not the only one.

]]> By: adopteesX3.blogspot.com http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2007/02/07/what-if/#comment-11629 adopteesX3.blogspot.com Sat, 10 Feb 2007 08:25:52 +0000 http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2007/02/07/what-if/#comment-11629 What if they were adopted into a home to "save a marriage", the afather was sent off the Viet Nam in less than a year, the amother wanted a girl but finageled a sibling group to make the father happy, the aparents had no physical or affectionate relationship? What if the father would come back from Nam a different person, quit his career, take a new job and meet a person who cared about him and then leave the bfamily? What if the amother threatened to "send you back where you came from or to the boy's home down the road" every time you did something that didn't line up with her stupid little idiosyncratic way of life? What if? What if they were adopted into a home to “save a marriage”, the afather was sent off the Viet Nam in less than a year, the amother wanted a girl but finageled a sibling group to make the father happy, the aparents had no physical or affectionate relationship? What if the father would come back from Nam a different person, quit his career, take a new job and meet a person who cared about him and then leave the bfamily? What if the amother threatened to “send you back where you came from or to the boy’s home down the road” every time you did something that didn’t line up with her stupid little idiosyncratic way of life? What if?

]]> By: kim.kim http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2007/02/07/what-if/#comment-11448 kim.kim Fri, 09 Feb 2007 19:17:49 +0000 http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2007/02/07/what-if/#comment-11448 Yay Wraith, I love your blog. Yay Wraith, I love your blog.

]]> By: suz http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2007/02/07/what-if/#comment-11371 suz Fri, 09 Feb 2007 12:09:58 +0000 http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2007/02/07/what-if/#comment-11371 outstanding post. as usual. outstanding post. as usual.

]]> By: Theresa http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2007/02/07/what-if/#comment-11272 Theresa Fri, 09 Feb 2007 03:51:41 +0000 http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2007/02/07/what-if/#comment-11272 What if... I didn't have blogs like this to read? Then I'd go on feeling so alone and weird. Thanks. What if… I didn’t have blogs like this to read? Then I’d go on feeling so alone and weird.
Thanks.

]]> By: Mia http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2007/02/07/what-if/#comment-11216 Mia Thu, 08 Feb 2007 21:40:37 +0000 http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2007/02/07/what-if/#comment-11216 What if indeed. Amen brother. What if indeed. Amen brother.

]]> By: Amy http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2007/02/07/what-if/#comment-11169 Amy Thu, 08 Feb 2007 15:44:13 +0000 http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2007/02/07/what-if/#comment-11169 Thank you for speaking my mind. Thank you for speaking my mind.

]]> By: poet http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2007/02/07/what-if/#comment-11156 poet Thu, 08 Feb 2007 12:55:35 +0000 http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2007/02/07/what-if/#comment-11156 what ifs are just like the shoulda coulda woulda syndrome. you can rush around chasing your tail all day and nothing would come of it. following your journey, your way....poet what ifs are just like the shoulda coulda woulda syndrome. you can rush around chasing your tail all day and nothing would come of it. following your journey, your way….poet

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