Some return
There is always some madness in love. But there is also always some reason in madness.
Friedrich Nietzsche (1844 - 1900)
Seven went out and two have returned; unopened. One says it is not deliverable as addressed, unable to forward. The other is a little weirder. It says “forward time exp to send.” The weird thing is that it lists another address so I am going to try to track that down and see if this person is there.
So two down (okay, maybe one) and five to go.
My wife saw one of the letters and apologized to me because she feels she hasn’t been there for me. Here is this very pregnant women who goes to work full time every day weekday, cleans house, cooks dinner (well sometimes, other times I do,) picks up my son from school, takes care of the finances, and often works with my son on his homework before I get home. She also has always been there if I need to talk about a problem at work. Doesn’t complain when I spend the evenings of one week a month at different meetings, from VFW to counseling session to an adoptee support group to a CUB meeting. Yet, she is worried that she hasn’t been there for me? She must be mad.
February 4th, 2007 at 7:42 am
very interesting how sposes react. mine historically wanted me to stop all that stuff and pay more attention to him. : (
glad your wife is suppportive. she sounds lovely.
February 4th, 2007 at 10:47 am
Hi Dan,I’ve been checking each day to see if you had heard anything back
I am so glad you have a loving,compassionate,considerate wife.Isnt’ that what will all wish we could have in our lives-someone who loves us for who we are,is compassionate and someone who is considerate.Not to mention someone who has helped bring joy and love into your heart by the birth of your son and the new baby.
My thoughts and prayers are being sent from the East coast to the postal worker to your mailbox with a response from your birthmother!!!!
Cynthia
February 4th, 2007 at 2:53 pm
So happy for you that -
a) some responses are coming in………….
and
b) you have a wonderful supporting wife.
My husband is just amazing - I would be a greater mess travelling down this road if it weren’t for him. He does worry about me greatly though - and wishes ultimately for me to be “happy” (and NOT the “happy adoptee” happy!!!).
Mostly he just hangs back - and gets ready to pick up the pieces if it all turns to mush!!!!
YAY - for the suppporting spouses.
Hugs, C.
February 4th, 2007 at 5:38 pm
I checked with a postal friend and the “undeliverable as addressed” means they have a p.o. box instead of regular mail service at the residence. Also, the postal service only forwards mail for a year after a change in address hence the “forward time expired”.
I am curious if you asked them to respond either way so you could eliminate names.
Reunited Dan
February 4th, 2007 at 6:53 pm
thanks suzhern, she is.
Hi Cynthia, thanks.
Hi chez - that can be the best support.
Dan - yeah, I sent a SASE and asked that they send it back. Thanks for the info. Last year, the agency mentioned she was moving so maybe this is the right one.
February 5th, 2007 at 7:47 pm
checking in, wraith. one of these days the news you are awaiting will come. call it a hunch. i hope it does, and that you are finally fulfilled. meanwhile, what a supportive and understanding wife you have. embrace that. take care, poet.
February 6th, 2007 at 8:17 am
I would most definitely be interested in the second one. If they gave you an address, go for it. I think that one might be it. Like you said that she moved last year. Dan is right as well they only forward the mail for one year. Then it is returned to sender for six months with a new address. Used to be a letter carrier myself for the Postal Service.
February 10th, 2007 at 1:34 am
Your wife isn’t mad - she’s just what you need. We adoptees are wierd people and when we find someone who will have us, they have incredible gifts and abilities! My adoption went awful and there was no love or affection or acceptance in my adoptive family. There was only criticism for this “stupid little boy” that doesn’t do things the way they should be done, has no common sense and is a “loser”.
So when I got married, I made sure my wife knows I love her by telling her often. She amazes me when she responds by saying “I’m glad you love me, I don’t know what I’d do without you”.
Love her to death……