Comments on: Nervously Waiting http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2007/01/30/nervously-waiting/ Wraith's Wrealm Thu, 04 Dec 2008 03:33:48 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.3.3 By: adopteesX3.blogspot.com http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2007/01/30/nervously-waiting/#comment-11631 adopteesX3.blogspot.com Sat, 10 Feb 2007 08:42:21 +0000 http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2007/01/30/nervously-waiting/#comment-11631 Dan, When I located my bmom (records were sealed), it went sort of like this.....Is this N? Yes. Did you marry N in 1958? Yes. Did you relinquish 4 kids in 1964 in the state of CA? Yes, who is this? This is one of them. And even though she had 3 boys, she said my name in the response. Now she isn't and wasn't the brightest person and to this day, we hardly talk even through a mediary because she's as big a loser as she was when she went on a drunken binge and left all 4 of us at a neighbor's house never to return (they eventually, after two weeks gave up and called the state), but it meant the world to me to find her and know there were people who actually looked like me (tired of being told by people that I looked like a misfit in my afamily), and why I did things that my afamily thought were stupid or comical. I needed this and so do you! Thinkin' of ya and saying a prayer for ya.... Dan,

When I located my bmom (records were sealed), it went sort of like this…..Is this N? Yes. Did you marry N in 1958? Yes. Did you relinquish 4 kids in 1964 in the state of CA? Yes, who is this? This is one of them. And even though she had 3 boys, she said my name in the response.

Now she isn’t and wasn’t the brightest person and to this day, we hardly talk even through a mediary because she’s as big a loser as she was when she went on a drunken binge and left all 4 of us at a neighbor’s house never to return (they eventually, after two weeks gave up and called the state), but it meant the world to me to find her and know there were people who actually looked like me (tired of being told by people that I looked like a misfit in my afamily), and why I did things that my afamily thought were stupid or comical. I needed this and so do you!

Thinkin’ of ya and saying a prayer for ya….

]]> By: poet http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2007/01/30/nervously-waiting/#comment-10299 poet Sat, 03 Feb 2007 14:21:33 +0000 http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2007/01/30/nervously-waiting/#comment-10299 just checking in to see if there was any news. take care and enjoy the weekend with your family. just checking in to see if there was any news. take care and enjoy the weekend with your family.

]]> By: Jan http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2007/01/30/nervously-waiting/#comment-10026 Jan Fri, 02 Feb 2007 07:23:17 +0000 http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2007/01/30/nervously-waiting/#comment-10026 Most birth moms are not promised privacy either - nor do most want it. Closed records are mostly what adoption agencies want - not birth parents. If it is any consolation, I do not think foster kids in general have much better, if any access to their records. A year may be long enough - hard to say. I think it is more than a reasonable time to wait though. You are in my thoughts and prayers as you wait. I so hope you get some answers this time. Hugs, Jan Most birth moms are not promised privacy either - nor do most want it. Closed records are mostly what adoption agencies want - not birth parents. If it is any consolation, I do not think foster kids in general have much better, if any access to their records.

A year may be long enough - hard to say. I think it is more than a reasonable time to wait though.

You are in my thoughts and prayers as you wait. I so hope you get some answers this time.

Hugs,

Jan

]]> By: Mia http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2007/01/30/nervously-waiting/#comment-9902 Mia Thu, 01 Feb 2007 14:33:30 +0000 http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2007/01/30/nervously-waiting/#comment-9902 I am confident you will hear from someone soon and you can start crossing people off the list. Better, I hope the first letter you get is from the right person and she is welcoming and kind. I am confident you will hear from someone soon and you can start crossing people off the list. Better, I hope the first letter you get is from the right person and she is welcoming and kind.

]]> By: Rebecca http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2007/01/30/nervously-waiting/#comment-9861 Rebecca Thu, 01 Feb 2007 08:34:59 +0000 http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2007/01/30/nervously-waiting/#comment-9861 I still struggle with not being able to have all the information I think I'm entitled too. Yes, I'm thrilled to know my mother and have her half. But that's just half. It takes two halves to make a whole. I'm that whole, shouldn't I get to know my makeup? I was told by my parents at a young age that I am part Cherokee Indian. I don't get to own that. I'm just another white girl as far as the people around me are concerned. I sobbed when we studied the Trail of Tears in school and the other kids just laughed at me. While I am perversely grateful, as many have suggested I should be, that I grew up in the privileged majority, I would still like to know more about that part of my roots. Not only to be able to identify with that part of my heritage but to have them identify me! I could go on but won't. I can relate to and empathize with your quest for more. You DO have a right to know your own heritage, as do your sons. Sending good thoughts your way that you get a reply, and a favorable one at that, soon. :) Rebecca I still struggle with not being able to have all the information I think I’m entitled too. Yes, I’m thrilled to know my mother and have her half. But that’s just half. It takes two halves to make a whole. I’m that whole, shouldn’t I get to know my makeup? I was told by my parents at a young age that I am part Cherokee Indian. I don’t get to own that. I’m just another white girl as far as the people around me are concerned. I sobbed when we studied the Trail of Tears in school and the other kids just laughed at me. While I am perversely grateful, as many have suggested I should be, that I grew up in the privileged majority, I would still like to know more about that part of my roots. Not only to be able to identify with that part of my heritage but to have them identify me! I could go on but won’t.

I can relate to and empathize with your quest for more. You DO have a right to know your own heritage, as do your sons.

Sending good thoughts your way that you get a reply, and a favorable one at that, soon.

:) Rebecca

]]> By: Chez http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2007/01/30/nervously-waiting/#comment-9797 Chez Thu, 01 Feb 2007 03:08:30 +0000 http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2007/01/30/nervously-waiting/#comment-9797 Sure hope you get a reply - sooner rather than later. Try not to tackle the postman in the meantime!!!! (I know exactly how this feels - and I too am crossing all crossable parts for some news really soon) Hugs, C. Sure hope you get a reply - sooner rather than later.
Try not to tackle the postman in the meantime!!!!
(I know exactly how this feels - and I too am crossing all crossable parts for some news really soon)
Hugs, C.

]]> By: kim.kim http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2007/01/30/nervously-waiting/#comment-9787 kim.kim Thu, 01 Feb 2007 02:15:14 +0000 http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2007/01/30/nervously-waiting/#comment-9787 Waiting with you too, hope you get a reply. Waiting with you too, hope you get a reply.

]]> By: poet http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2007/01/30/nervously-waiting/#comment-9642 poet Wed, 31 Jan 2007 15:13:41 +0000 http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2007/01/30/nervously-waiting/#comment-9642 i am crossing my fingers and all other crossable parts that you receive the news you want and need to hear. i understand your fears, been there, done that. whatever comes of it, you did the best you know how. you have the support of your family and your wife. you have we interent friends who stand beside you and hope for the best. waiting alongside too, poet. i am crossing my fingers and all other crossable parts that you receive the news you want and need to hear. i understand your fears, been there, done that. whatever comes of it, you did the best you know how. you have the support of your family and your wife. you have we interent friends who stand beside you and hope for the best. waiting alongside too, poet.

]]> By: Cynthia http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2007/01/30/nervously-waiting/#comment-9390 Cynthia Tue, 30 Jan 2007 19:59:28 +0000 http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2007/01/30/nervously-waiting/#comment-9390 Hey Dan,i tried responding to your post from a few days ago-oops blonde moment i didn't put my e-mail in...I dont' know if i have met anyone else who is as determinded as you in your quest to find out your truth..Wanted to let you know i have buddy passes available for a reasonalbe fee and of course standby status,to you should you find your birthfamily and want to do a fly by..I do believe it is your turn to find...waiting patiently with you... Cynthia Hey Dan,i tried responding to your post from a few days ago-oops blonde moment i didn’t put my e-mail in…I dont’ know if i have met anyone else who is as determinded as you in your quest to find out your truth..Wanted to let you know i have buddy passes available for a reasonalbe fee and of course standby status,to you should you find your birthfamily and want to do a fly by..I do believe it is your turn to find…waiting patiently with you…

Cynthia

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