Comments on: Love us, tell us, support us http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2007/01/11/love-us-tell-us-support-us/ Wraith's Wrealm Thu, 11 Mar 2010 03:32:18 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.3.3 By: Wraiths http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2007/01/11/love-us-tell-us-support-us/#comment-11129 Wraiths Thu, 08 Feb 2007 07:07:16 +0000 http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2007/01/11/love-us-tell-us-support-us/#comment-11129 My own parents are the same. It just kills me though to have adoptees who are afraid for reason, such as being threatened to be thrown out for wanting to know their roots. We have a long way to go. My own parents are the same. It just kills me though to have adoptees who are afraid for reason, such as being threatened to be thrown out for wanting to know their roots.

We have a long way to go.

]]> By: J and T's mom http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2007/01/11/love-us-tell-us-support-us/#comment-11075 J and T's mom Wed, 07 Feb 2007 22:50:36 +0000 http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2007/01/11/love-us-tell-us-support-us/#comment-11075 As an AP myself, I was glad to have found your writings and continue to search out other view of adoptees. Please know that not all AP's are thoughtless and scared by the tougher aspects of adoption - my children are young, but my son is already experiencing challenges with his adoption at the age of 4! I am not afraid to go there with him or his sister - we are in this together as a family and we will support our children no matter what life presents. As an AP myself, I was glad to have found your writings and continue to search out other view of adoptees. Please know that not all AP’s are thoughtless and scared by the tougher aspects of adoption - my children are young, but my son is already experiencing challenges with his adoption at the age of 4! I am not afraid to go there with him or his sister - we are in this together as a family and we will support our children no matter what life presents.

]]> By: SavvyThinker.com http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2007/01/11/love-us-tell-us-support-us/#comment-10932 SavvyThinker.com Tue, 06 Feb 2007 22:46:09 +0000 http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2007/01/11/love-us-tell-us-support-us/#comment-10932 [...] Seeing the inner world of adopted children my current POV is most APs are nowhere near seeing the inner world of their adopted child. Most APs look for reasons to deny or overlook or minimalize this kind of observation, aimed to help them. It’s much easier to follow myth, grouptalk, & parent-1st. ‘Love us, tell us, support us‘ which is fairly mild in its challenges…would raise defensive shields & a string of “we not so bad, you couldn’t mean us APs, must be the other ones” posts on Yahoo sites. Wouldn’t expect it of IAT, but we APs here can be off-track. I flounder, its a given. Gordon at IAT, with permission. [...] […] Seeing the inner world of adopted children my current POV is most APs are nowhere near seeing the inner world of their adopted child. Most APs look for reasons to deny or overlook or minimalize this kind of observation, aimed to help them. It’s much easier to follow myth, grouptalk, & parent-1st. ‘Love us, tell us, support us‘ which is fairly mild in its challenges…would raise defensive shields & a string of “we not so bad, you couldn’t mean us APs, must be the other ones” posts on Yahoo sites. Wouldn’t expect it of IAT, but we APs here can be off-track. I flounder, its a given. Gordon at IAT, with permission. […]

]]> By: Karin http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2007/01/11/love-us-tell-us-support-us/#comment-10865 Karin Tue, 06 Feb 2007 13:31:38 +0000 http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2007/01/11/love-us-tell-us-support-us/#comment-10865 I edited my post this morning. Great job! I've read around some of the rest of your site as well. Feel free to link my website to your home page as I will talk about adoption a lot. Here's what I wrote this morning: I found Love us, tell us, support us in Ramblings of a Shadow’s blog very compelling. It was posted as a link at IAT. When first person narratives offer insight into the thoughts of adoptees and confirm repeatedly what I am seeing in my own family and in others’, it is a wakeup call to APs. It doesn’t make our position as APs weaker, but it makes it stronger, if we can walk the walk with our children, no matter what age they are. Sometimes you just need to have a little faith or at least the strength to step into the storm. I edited my post this morning. Great job! I’ve read around some of the rest of your site as well. Feel free to link my website to your home page as I will talk about adoption a lot.

Here’s what I wrote this morning:

I found Love us, tell us, support us in Ramblings of a Shadow’s blog very compelling. It was posted as a link at IAT.

When first person narratives offer insight into the thoughts of adoptees and confirm repeatedly what I am seeing in my own family and in others’, it is a wakeup call to APs. It doesn’t make our position as APs weaker, but it makes it stronger, if we can walk the walk with our children, no matter what age they are.

Sometimes you just need to have a little faith or at least the strength to step into the storm.

]]> By: SavvyThinker.com http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2007/01/11/love-us-tell-us-support-us/#comment-10820 SavvyThinker.com Tue, 06 Feb 2007 03:37:49 +0000 http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2007/01/11/love-us-tell-us-support-us/#comment-10820 [...] I found this entry very compelling. It was posted as a link at IAT. [...] […] I found this entry very compelling. It was posted as a link at IAT. […]

]]> By: poet http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2007/01/11/love-us-tell-us-support-us/#comment-5749 poet Mon, 15 Jan 2007 11:52:12 +0000 http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2007/01/11/love-us-tell-us-support-us/#comment-5749 been lurking again. great post, well said. my adoptive parents were supportive of me during my search. they felt threatened, naturally, but all in all, they knew i had to do what was right for me at the time. i guess they were doing the best they knew how to do at the time as well. dad was more threatened than mom, and was a bit angry, however, after my bio-dad passed away, dad was the first to offer his condolences. he also said that i would always be HIS little girl and he was happy that i found what i was missing. my mom was certain that i would be hurt by the results of my search, and like any parent, she didn't want her child hurting. in any event, time passes, and the hurts heal. they were as supportive as they could have been. i know i was and still am loved. i just lost my dad (passed away dec29,2006), and it has been really hard. take care, wraith, and know that your journey is being read. poet been lurking again. great post, well said. my adoptive parents were supportive of me during my search. they felt threatened, naturally, but all in all, they knew i had to do what was right for me at the time. i guess they were doing the best they knew how to do at the time as well. dad was more threatened than mom, and was a bit angry, however, after my bio-dad passed away, dad was the first to offer his condolences. he also said that i would always be HIS little girl and he was happy that i found what i was missing. my mom was certain that i would be hurt by the results of my search, and like any parent, she didn’t want her child hurting. in any event, time passes, and the hurts heal. they were as supportive as they could have been. i know i was and still am loved. i just lost my dad (passed away dec29,2006), and it has been really hard. take care, wraith, and know that your journey is being read. poet

]]> By: Reunited Dan http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2007/01/11/love-us-tell-us-support-us/#comment-5545 Reunited Dan Mon, 15 Jan 2007 01:52:35 +0000 http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2007/01/11/love-us-tell-us-support-us/#comment-5545 "However, to be honest, I have seen some adoptees who were afraid to say something and when they did, their parents supported them. Sometimes you just need to have a little faith or at least the strength to step into the storm. " Interesting thoughts. I was of the firm belief my adoptive parents would be very supportive but was surprised that my mother's reaction was lackluster at best. No storm but certainly not what I had expected. “However, to be honest, I have seen some adoptees who were afraid to say something and when they did, their parents supported them. Sometimes you just need to have a little faith or at least the strength to step into the storm. ”

Interesting thoughts. I was of the firm belief my adoptive parents would be very supportive but was surprised that my mother’s reaction was lackluster at best.

No storm but certainly not what I had expected.

]]> By: Mia http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2007/01/11/love-us-tell-us-support-us/#comment-4004 Mia Fri, 12 Jan 2007 20:38:03 +0000 http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2007/01/11/love-us-tell-us-support-us/#comment-4004 This one has me all worked up now. Standing up and cheering!!!!!!!!! YES YES YES!!!!!!!!!!!!! This one has me all worked up now.

Standing up and cheering!!!!!!!!!

YES YES YES!!!!!!!!!!!!!

]]> By: Poor_Statue http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2007/01/11/love-us-tell-us-support-us/#comment-3339 Poor_Statue Fri, 12 Jan 2007 12:09:26 +0000 http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2007/01/11/love-us-tell-us-support-us/#comment-3339 Well said. You are so right. Well said. You are so right.

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