Comments on: Birthparent

By: Wraiths

Wraiths — Tue, 05 Dec 2006 14:29:14 +0000

Kim.kim - you got me there.

Heather - that is a very good point. Why is it automatically assumed to mean the opposite for another person? Probably that knee-jerk reaction as well.

By: HeatherRainbow

HeatherRainbow — Tue, 05 Dec 2006 08:00:16 +0000

Why do people think that a term for us implies the opposite term for others?

For example, if one assumes that natural parent will lead to unnatural parent

That first parent implies last (or second etc) parent

Then why doesn’t birth parent lead to death parent?

By: Dan

Dan — Sun, 03 Dec 2006 03:12:23 +0000

Sorry. It seemed to be an Outlook Express glitch.

By: Poor_Statue

Poor_Statue — Thu, 30 Nov 2006 11:32:28 +0000

Well said, Terri. I agree.

By: kim.kim

kim.kim — Wed, 29 Nov 2006 16:00:07 +0000

I call the woman who gave birth to me my mother.

By: Wraiths

Wraiths — Mon, 27 Nov 2006 04:10:44 +0000

Hey Dan, what the heck are you using to send email?

MaeDay- Thank you and I hope you had great Thanksgiving and that you and yours have a great rest of the year too.

Mia, Good point!!

Terri, calling a woman birthmom prior to the birth is definatly not right.

By: Terri

Terri — Mon, 27 Nov 2006 03:07:55 +0000

The longer the debate goes on, the more I don’t care what I’m called so long as it’s said with respectful intent (and it’s not late for dessert!). Words are human creations. Love transcends them. Though I’m no big fan of birthmother (primarily because I was called one while I was simply a pregnant mom looking for parenting resources), I feel that any “new and improved” term will just get hijacked by people who profit from it. That said, I hear ya, it does get frustrating when you’re trying to dialoge with somebody who is a member of a group that has different preferences: ie: Latino vs Hispanic, Native American vs. the particular tribe’s name, black vs. African American.

I just ask the individual what they prefer, at this point, and go from there … but it still makes referring to a group difficult.

By: Mia

Mia — Fri, 24 Nov 2006 14:52:39 +0000

I wonder if MaeDay meant that comment to be as profound as it was? You have heard me say if there could just be consistancy among the troops it would be easier to be respectful and I still think this is true.

A comment like MaeDay’s sort of puts things in perspective doesn’t it? Kind of gets to the meat of the matter without all of the inconsistancy clouding the issue.

By: MaeDay

MaeDay — Thu, 23 Nov 2006 22:51:06 +0000

No answers for a better word for , mom , but Happy Thanksgiving to you and yours.

By: Dan

Dan — Thu, 23 Nov 2006 00:58:44 +0000

I tried again but it says your server” doesn’t accept non-western (non-latin) character sets”.

Happy Thanksgiving to you and yours!

Dan