Comments on: Why Search? http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2006/09/12/why-search/ Wraith's Wrealm Thu, 04 Dec 2008 04:13:54 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.3.3 By: Wraiths http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2006/09/12/why-search/#comment-1720 Wraiths Mon, 18 Sep 2006 00:02:20 +0000 http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2006/09/12/why-search/#comment-1720 Wow, I am sorry for that. Fear and the attempt to control it can be a powerful demotivator. In many ways, it probably brings up feelings of loss for him and he is striking out. A few years ago, I probably would have been the same way if she had searched me out but after talking to so many adoptees and birthmoms and dads, I have learned tons since then and still have a long way to go as does your son apparently. Wow, I am sorry for that. Fear and the attempt to control it can be a powerful demotivator. In many ways, it probably brings up feelings of loss for him and he is striking out. A few years ago, I probably would have been the same way if she had searched me out but after talking to so many adoptees and birthmoms and dads, I have learned tons since then and still have a long way to go as does your son apparently.

]]> By: Anonymous http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2006/09/12/why-search/#comment-1718 Anonymous Sun, 17 Sep 2006 19:28:51 +0000 http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2006/09/12/why-search/#comment-1718 control is a very interesting issue. control is a reason that my son uses to say NO to contact. one of them. one of the 3 (not so nice) email i have received from him, control seems to be a central theme, mentioned 3 times. too bad he couldn't feel in control in some other way, that would allow us to have some amount of contact. wishing you the best in your search............. control is a very interesting issue. control is a reason that my son uses to say NO to contact. one of them. one of the 3 (not so nice) email i have received from him, control seems to be a central theme, mentioned 3 times. too bad he couldn’t feel in control in some other way, that would allow us to have some amount of contact. wishing you the best in your search………….

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