Vacation
I’m back from a brief jaunt to Portland, Oregon for a vacation. Funny thing is there was an adoption conference there last weekend but I didn’t go since I had a family wedding to attend. In reality, I didn’t know most of the guests or the family that was there but it was a gorgeous wedding with horse drawn carriages, waterfalls, and excellent food while surronded by pine trees and a babbling brook.
We didn’t do a whole lot, for eaxmple I didn’t get to go hiking as much as I wanted, but it was nice to be away from home and work for a while. Heck, I didn’t even check my email for the entire trip with the exception of the Chosen Babies group. That’s a vacation. My wife kept apologising to me, she was so worried that I wouldn’t have a good time but I did. It was very relaxing and I got to read a lot (I reread 3 of the Honor Harrington series while up there and on the plane and made it partway into the 4th to me, that’s relaxing.)
We did get to go to one set of falls and started the one mile treck up. Unfortunately, due to a cold and being a bit out of shape, I couldn’t get to the top although I did go about 3/4 of the way. My wife did make it to the top though. (I’ll post the pictures when I get them uploaded.) We also visited the Grotto, which is an outdoor Catholic Church. Now, I’m not big on Catholicism but what better place to build a church but a wooded area up against a cliff? Sort of a “Nature’s Cathedral” feeling. Breathtaking, as was the elevator ride up the cliff to the path which wound around the trees and rose bushes.
Being sick was one of the downsides of the trip. It wasn’t a “lay in bed” kind of sick but instead a slight “tickle in the back of the throat” kind of sick. The kind where you take a benadryl and feel pretty good for the next few hours. :sick:
Now it’s back to the grind and reading thru the 1500 emails I had, 500 of which were adoption related. I’ve got to cut back on some of these groups. ;) I almost deleted all the ones from one group but happen to see a reply to one I posted before I left and it led to a get together for about 13 members who live near Disneyland right after I get back from the CUB retreat. I am going to be overloaded that week!! :woot:
I got a letter from Children’s Homes Society of Florida. They have decided they can’t do anything else. Basically it says they have tried everything they can and becuase my blood mom won’t return emails they won’t forward the letter. Also, they contacted several men whose name matches but some didn’t repsond and others replied in the negative so they are done. Heck, they didn’t even send a reciept!
August 22nd, 2006 at 10:26 pm
I am sorry this is so frustrating, this is so unfair.
August 23rd, 2006 at 4:15 am
That just bites. Frustrating is right!
I am glad you’re back though and I hope you are feeling better.
August 23rd, 2006 at 5:41 am
i’m sorry for the frustration in this, wraith. take care. poet
August 31st, 2006 at 8:54 am
Dear Son, after thinking about the adoption laws in most states….do you realise that the laws not only imply that adoptees are untrustworty..but that their adoptive parents also must be untrustworthy…since they are the ones who raised the untrustworthy(implied) child!! I can’t think too much more right now…gets my blood pressure too high..not a good thing. LOVE,MOM
September 10th, 2006 at 8:22 pm
As one who has gone before, listen up and ye will be rewarded. How do I know? I’m an adoptee who was married to an officer at…um…Langley. I listened and learned and completed my own story(ended with a dead mother, yep I chased a ghost with no name to an unmarked grave, yeesh)
Leave out intermediaries. They are all liars and their words, letters, BS only hurt you and cost you money. They feed off of your pain and the pain of the people who pay them to help. They’re sadistic. You’re better looking on your own. The interesting twist of the search is that if you’re not finding answers as you’re looking too far off the path. Start with WHAT you KNOW. City, town, hospital(I was lied to about that!)…take heed in the solid truth that “the apple doesnt fall too far from the tree” (unless of course it’s an international adoption, but I digress).
Bottom line, stop following a fantasy and start chasing truth. Hospitals are legally required to provide medical records to patients(even if the “patient” is a newborn). Baby girl Wraith or baby boy Wraith is a “patient” and all identifying information is included on that document. I know, when I came up with a date and time for babies born on that day…poof, they had to bark up my record.
Back in your day…Florida was probably pre-Disney and quite small. The main library for your “hometown” keeps phone books from most past years. Look at the historical photos of the area on your birthday and the “logistics”… apartments, “mother’s homes, childrens homes, attorneys close to a hospital(she probably had not much money, car?). Look at the hospital historical photos, find a retired nurse. If you have a military “bent” she was probably from a military base area, also “military” or/and your dad. Look in those areas carefully…put the pain aside for a day or two(it clouds your brain) and be a sleuth.
Best of luck and stop cutting yourself with painful thoughts about what “she thinks”…using the apple doesnt fall far truth….she’s probably thinking the same about you.
September 10th, 2006 at 8:44 pm
Thank you Joy, Mia, Poet for your support. Mom, yeah it ticks me off as well. Adoptee Sage, thank you for the advice. I will take it to heart with a trip back I am making.