Comments on: Great Prices are born here and raised elsewhere… http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2006/06/13/great-prices-are-born-here-and-raised-elsewhere/ Study of adoption Fri, 30 Dec 2011 04:34:00 -0700 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1 By: Mia http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2006/06/13/great-prices-are-born-here-and-raised-elsewhere/#comment-503 Mia Sat, 17 Jun 2006 12:53:27 +0000 http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2006/06/13/great-prices-are-born-here-and-raised-elsewhere/#comment-503 Hi Wraith, Your son will come around eventually and even if he never really warms up to the idea of a kitty he will get to the point where it's a given kitty lives there. Animals find us not the other way around. I really believe that. Your son will be fine, you are not going to emotionally scar him for life by allowing the cat to stay. ;o) They will get used to one another soon enough. Maybe you could try taking your son to the store and letting him pick out some treats and a few toys for the cat to play with. He may be into that and warm up to the idea of having a furry friend. Hi Wraith,
Your son will come around eventually and even if he never really warms up to the idea of a kitty he will get to the point where it’s a given kitty lives there. Animals find us not the other way around. I really believe that. Your son will be fine, you are not going to emotionally scar him for life by allowing the cat to stay. ;o) They will get used to one another soon enough. Maybe you could try taking your son to the store and letting him pick out some treats and a few toys for the cat to play with. He may be into that and warm up to the idea of having a furry friend.

]]> By: suz http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2006/06/13/great-prices-are-born-here-and-raised-elsewhere/#comment-467 suz Thu, 15 Jun 2006 15:52:59 +0000 http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2006/06/13/great-prices-are-born-here-and-raised-elsewhere/#comment-467 whoops, sorry, that anon was me. whoops, sorry, that anon was me.

]]> By: Anonymous http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2006/06/13/great-prices-are-born-here-and-raised-elsewhere/#comment-466 Anonymous Thu, 15 Jun 2006 15:52:34 +0000 http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2006/06/13/great-prices-are-born-here-and-raised-elsewhere/#comment-466 <i>Keep me or stay in the family? Me or finish college?</i> She may have lost them all. In my case, lost my daughter to adoption, discarded by my family, lost my college acceptance, was left alone to take care of myself. Just point that out because your bmom <i>may</i> have lost all around and not "kept" anything. Keep me or stay in the family? Me or finish college?
She may have lost them all.

In my case, lost my daughter to adoption, discarded by my family, lost my college acceptance, was left alone to take care of myself. Just point that out because your bmom may have lost all around and not “kept” anything.

]]> By: Wraiths http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2006/06/13/great-prices-are-born-here-and-raised-elsewhere/#comment-458 Wraiths Thu, 15 Jun 2006 04:34:20 +0000 http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2006/06/13/great-prices-are-born-here-and-raised-elsewhere/#comment-458 He's 6 but he doesn't seem to be allergic. He will pet the cat if I am holding her and doesn't get any of the normal allergic reactions. I am still hoping he will change but I don't even see a slight change. Then again, it's still early right? He’s 6 but he doesn’t seem to be allergic. He will pet the cat if I am holding her and doesn’t get any of the normal allergic reactions. I am still hoping he will change but I don’t even see a slight change. Then again, it’s still early right?

]]> By: joy http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2006/06/13/great-prices-are-born-here-and-raised-elsewhere/#comment-433 joy Wed, 14 Jun 2006 03:03:31 +0000 http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2006/06/13/great-prices-are-born-here-and-raised-elsewhere/#comment-433 I have a cat too, I have had it for 14 years, she just moved in with us. She belonged to the neighbors, I am ALLERGIC to cats. But I have dutifully cared for this one, paid her vet bills etc. More than once I have wondered why I don't just get rid of her, I even had someone offer to take her, but I can't bring myself to "abandon" her, I wonder if it is because you know--- Joy I have a cat too, I have had it for 14 years, she just moved in with us. She belonged to the neighbors, I am ALLERGIC to cats. But I have dutifully cared for this one, paid her vet bills etc. More than once I have wondered why I don’t just get rid of her, I even had someone offer to take her, but I can’t bring myself to “abandon” her, I wonder if it is because you know—
Joy

]]> By: poet http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2006/06/13/great-prices-are-born-here-and-raised-elsewhere/#comment-432 poet Wed, 14 Jun 2006 02:17:38 +0000 http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2006/06/13/great-prices-are-born-here-and-raised-elsewhere/#comment-432 you raise an interesting point with regard to your son. i know of a lady who is deathly terrifed of cats, and i can't understand it either. she said that it was "just something about their eyes". she would call first to ensure that all felis domesticus were put out of her sight before she would arrive at our door. how old is your son again? perhaps he is allergic or something. maybe a visit to a health care professional could rule that out. meanwhile, you have built a relationship with the cat. a man who likes cats is ok in my book. having 6 of the little darlings (see my latest post for pics), i have a fairly good understanding of the ways of the cat. they are perfect examples of "choice theory" (by dr. william glasser). they get what they need, they do what they want when they want to. the cat chose your front porch to live under, and he/she chose you to sit on when you are available. not much help i imagine, but i think that if you try and help your son to get used to the cat he may accept him/her for the great companion that he/she can be to all of you. you are very strong to write about wanting to know where you came from, and that is admirable. being adopted and going through the whole search , find, relate, and not so much contact now, i can tell you that it will be worth whatever you find out. the imagination is a strong thing, and alot worse than any truth you may find. maybe if you let go; i mean; what i am trying to say is...the harder you search for something, the harder it is to find. you know what i mean? looking forward to more posts. i have added you to my blog family, i hope that is ok with you. have a good tuesday night/wednesday. poet you raise an interesting point with regard to your son. i know of a lady who is deathly terrifed of cats, and i can’t understand it either. she said that it was “just something about their eyes”. she would call first to ensure that all felis domesticus were put out of her sight before she would arrive at our door. how old is your son again? perhaps he is allergic or something. maybe a visit to a health care professional could rule that out.

meanwhile, you have built a relationship with the cat. a man who likes cats is ok in my book. having 6 of the little darlings (see my latest post for pics), i have a fairly good understanding of the ways of the cat. they are perfect examples of “choice theory” (by dr. william glasser). they get what they need, they do what they want when they want to. the cat chose your front porch to live under, and he/she chose you to sit on when you are available.

not much help i imagine, but i think that if you try and help your son to get used to the cat he may accept him/her for the great companion that he/she can be to all of you.

you are very strong to write about wanting to know where you came from, and that is admirable. being adopted and going through the whole search , find, relate, and not so much contact now, i can tell you that it will be worth whatever you find out. the imagination is a strong thing, and alot worse than any truth you may find. maybe if you let go; i mean; what i am trying to say is…the harder you search for something, the harder it is to find. you know what i mean?

looking forward to more posts. i have added you to my blog family, i hope that is ok with you.
have a good tuesday night/wednesday. poet

]]> By: Andie D. http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2006/06/13/great-prices-are-born-here-and-raised-elsewhere/#comment-429 Andie D. Wed, 14 Jun 2006 02:11:29 +0000 http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2006/06/13/great-prices-are-born-here-and-raised-elsewhere/#comment-429 Isn't it funny how we see adoption or references to it almost everywhere we go? I have times when I wish I wasn't adopted, had no frame of reference for it, couldn't care less. But I'm trying to accept that it's a part of me. It helps to see things like the saying & pic on that truck and take them at face value. Even if it takes awhile to get there. ;) Isn’t it funny how we see adoption or references to it almost everywhere we go?

I have times when I wish I wasn’t adopted, had no frame of reference for it, couldn’t care less. But I’m trying to accept that it’s a part of me. It helps to see things like the saying & pic on that truck and take them at face value. Even if it takes awhile to get there. ;)

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