Comments on: Womb of the Unknown Mother http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2006/02/27/womb-of-the-unknown-mother/ Wraith's Wrealm Thu, 04 Dec 2008 01:15:29 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.3.3 By: Cookie http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2006/02/27/womb-of-the-unknown-mother/#comment-141 Cookie Thu, 02 Mar 2006 17:03:00 +0000 http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2006/02/27/womb-of-the-unknown-mother/#comment-141 I did a post on my other blog about your search and I hope that someone might read it and think hard - that maybe treating people searchers like crap really isn't right. Think you know my heart and prayers are with you, but, I shall keep reminding you. No, you're not crazy! You are human and you want to know your other mother. Nothing crazy about that. I can point in a few places where there are people I wonder about though. People so mean-spirited and seemingly without any consciences. Some adoptive parents strike me that way, most agencies do. And, anyone who facilitates adoptions and makes adoption sound like a total win-win solution - yipes - they are crazy and misguided too. And wrong - sooo wrong! I did a post on my other blog about your search and I hope that someone might read it and think hard - that maybe treating people searchers like crap really isn’t right.

Think you know my heart and prayers are with you, but, I shall keep reminding you.

No, you’re not crazy! You are human and you want to know your other mother.
Nothing crazy about that.

I can point in a few places where there are people I wonder about though. People so mean-spirited and seemingly without any consciences. Some adoptive parents strike me that way, most agencies do. And, anyone who facilitates adoptions and makes adoption sound like a total win-win solution - yipes - they are crazy and misguided too. And wrong - sooo wrong!

]]> By: kim.kim http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2006/02/27/womb-of-the-unknown-mother/#comment-140 kim.kim Wed, 01 Mar 2006 19:48:00 +0000 http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2006/02/27/womb-of-the-unknown-mother/#comment-140 I've had some pretty intense feelings of pain that are adoption related but I am not going to say I know exactly what you are going through because I'm the other side of the coin so to speak. I hate it how you get treated badly on this search, that's horrible, like you are being bad or something for wanting to know. The laws really suck I hope they will be changed, it's so....archaic. You sound pretty sane to me. I’ve had some pretty intense feelings of pain that are adoption related but I am not going to say I know exactly what you are going through because I’m the other side of the coin so to speak.
I hate it how you get treated badly on this search, that’s horrible, like you are being bad or something for wanting to know. The laws really suck I hope they will be changed, it’s so….archaic.
You sound pretty sane to me.

]]> By: Wraiths http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2006/02/27/womb-of-the-unknown-mother/#comment-139 Wraiths Wed, 01 Mar 2006 13:27:00 +0000 http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2006/02/27/womb-of-the-unknown-mother/#comment-139 Thank you all for your comments. I actually had a good cry after writing this, and a bit yesterday over the whole thing and feel a lot better inside today, but it still hurts. Luckily, I have a OC Adoptee meeting tonight and a Santa Monica group on Saturday. The timing was almost perfect. Thank you all for your comments. I actually had a good cry after writing this, and a bit yesterday over the whole thing and feel a lot better inside today, but it still hurts. Luckily, I have a OC Adoptee meeting tonight and a Santa Monica group on Saturday. The timing was almost perfect.

]]> By: Manuela http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2006/02/27/womb-of-the-unknown-mother/#comment-138 Manuela Tue, 28 Feb 2006 19:05:00 +0000 http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2006/02/27/womb-of-the-unknown-mother/#comment-138 I am so sorry... my heart just absolutely goes out to you... I am so sorry… my heart just absolutely goes out to you…

]]> By: HeatherRainbow http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2006/02/27/womb-of-the-unknown-mother/#comment-137 HeatherRainbow Tue, 28 Feb 2006 16:09:00 +0000 http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2006/02/27/womb-of-the-unknown-mother/#comment-137 ((wraith)) Just remember that she didn't reject you, she rejected the pain because it's too much for her to take right now. The fact that she is searching for your bio dad, maybe she is working through her pain. Maybe one day? As for the waiting... just keep loving yourself. Keep taking care. I know it sounds difficult, but this is the only suggestion I have. It's so difficult being physically separated, but maybe remember that spiritually, and even phsiologically, and emotionally, we will always be connected. ((wraith))

Just remember that she didn’t reject you, she rejected the pain because it’s too much for her to take right now. The fact that she is searching for your bio dad, maybe she is working through her pain. Maybe one day?

As for the waiting… just keep loving yourself. Keep taking care. I know it sounds difficult, but this is the only suggestion I have.

It’s so difficult being physically separated, but maybe remember that spiritually, and even phsiologically, and emotionally, we will always be connected.

]]> By: Adopted Life http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2006/02/27/womb-of-the-unknown-mother/#comment-136 Adopted Life Tue, 28 Feb 2006 15:45:00 +0000 http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2006/02/27/womb-of-the-unknown-mother/#comment-136 "I feel like my insides are nothing but pain and I'm so afraid of letting it out. I feel like if I did, it would just consume me." It's keeping it in that's consuming you. Let it out man. It's the only way to move on. “I feel like my insides are nothing but pain and I’m so afraid of letting it out. I feel like if I did, it would just consume me.”

It’s keeping it in that’s consuming you. Let it out man. It’s the only way to move on.

]]> By: Mia http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2006/02/27/womb-of-the-unknown-mother/#comment-135 Mia Tue, 28 Feb 2006 15:23:00 +0000 http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2006/02/27/womb-of-the-unknown-mother/#comment-135 There are so many things I want to say to you, to help you speed through the healing process. Not that I am there or anything but it's like I want to share all I have learned through the past several years. I know though that I can't because we are all different and we all need to travel our own road. I take comfort in knowing others understand how difficult the journey is though and I hope you can too. ANY TIME you might need to talk, vent, scream, cry....I AM HERE!!!! WE ARE ALL HERE!!! YOU ARE NOT ALONE!!!! The constants in your life are what will get you through and we are constants you can count on. Mia There are so many things I want to say to you, to help you speed through the healing process. Not that I am there or anything but it’s like I want to share all I have learned through the past several years. I know though that I can’t because we are all different and we all need to travel our own road.
I take comfort in knowing others understand how difficult the journey is though and I hope you can too.
ANY TIME you might need to talk, vent, scream, cry….I AM HERE!!!! WE ARE ALL HERE!!! YOU ARE NOT ALONE!!!!
The constants in your life are what will get you through and we are constants you can count on.
Mia

]]> By: Kippa Herring http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2006/02/27/womb-of-the-unknown-mother/#comment-134 Kippa Herring Tue, 28 Feb 2006 13:34:00 +0000 http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2006/02/27/womb-of-the-unknown-mother/#comment-134 Don't know what to say either, other than I'm thinking of you in your anguish, and praying that your mother will find the heart and courage to respond to your needs. I am so sorry . . . that you are being subjected to this. You are very brave, and articulate too. Don’t know what to say either, other than I’m thinking of you in your anguish, and praying that your mother will find the heart and courage to respond to your needs. I am so sorry . . . that you are being subjected to this.
You are very brave, and articulate too.

]]> By: Lady http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2006/02/27/womb-of-the-unknown-mother/#comment-133 Lady Tue, 28 Feb 2006 12:53:00 +0000 http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2006/02/27/womb-of-the-unknown-mother/#comment-133 Don't know what to say but , (((HUGS))). I just hope/pray you'll recieve more answers.(and your mother will have a change of heart) Lady Don’t know what to say but , (((HUGS))). I just hope/pray you’ll recieve more answers.(and your mother will have a change of heart)

Lady

]]> By: Heartened http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2006/02/27/womb-of-the-unknown-mother/#comment-132 Heartened Tue, 28 Feb 2006 04:35:00 +0000 http://wraithswrealm.com/blog/2006/02/27/womb-of-the-unknown-mother/#comment-132 Don't worry Wraith - we're your friends, we'll let you know if you go out of your mind. ;) Logic plays no part in matters of the heart. I don't know why so many mothers act this way - it scares me to think mine might do the same. Somehow we'll learn to separate their foolish choices from our broken hearts. Don't ask me how, though. I'd imagine we'll do this the same way we do everything else - a little bit at a time. Don’t worry Wraith - we’re your friends, we’ll let you know if you go out of your mind. ;)

Logic plays no part in matters of the heart. I don’t know why so many mothers act this way - it scares me to think mine might do the same. Somehow we’ll learn to separate their foolish choices from our broken hearts. Don’t ask me how, though. I’d imagine we’ll do this the same way we do everything else - a little bit at a time.

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